Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition

How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less
Author: Hal Runkel, LMFT
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9780767928380
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 352
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You Can Start a Revolution in Your Family . . . Tonight ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family. It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight. Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents. If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge. What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what. Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to: focus on yourself calm yourself down, and grow yourself up By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process. ScreamFree Parenting is not just another parenting book. It’s the first parenting book that maintains—from beginning to end—that parenting is NOT about kids . . . it’s about parents. As parents pay more attention to controlling their own behavior instead of their kids’ behavior, the result is stronger, more rewarding, and more fulfilling family relationships. For those of you reading who are parents, know parents, or have had parents, the notion that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to learn to focus on yourself may sound strange, even heretical. It’s not. Here’s why: we are the only ones we can control. We cannot control our kids—we cannot control the behavior of any other human being. And yet, so many “experts” keep giving us more tools (“techniques”) to help us try to do just that. And, of course, the more we try to control, the more out of control our children become. “Don’t make me come up there.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” “How many times do I have to tell you?” Even our language suggests that our kids have control over us. It’s no wonder that we end up screaming. Or shutting down. Or simply giving up. And the charts, refrigerator magnets, family meetings, and other techniques in most typical parenting books just don’t work. They end up making us feel more frustrated and more powerless in this whole parenting thing. This practical, effective guide for parents of all ages with kids of all ages introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. Well-written in an engaging, conversational tone, the book is sensible, straightforward, and based on the experiences of hundreds of actual families. It will help all parents become calming authorities in their homes, bring peace to their families today, and give kids what they need to grow into caring, self-directed adults tomorrow.

Screamfree Parenting

The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
Author: Hal Edward Runkel
Publisher: Harmony Books
ISBN: 0767927435
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 228
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Introduces a practical approach to parenting that explains how to overcome the stresses and anxieties of parenting by learning how to relate to children in a calm, cool, and connected way.

Screamfree Parenting

The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
Author: Hal Edward Runkel
Publisher: Random House of Canada
ISBN: 9780767928380
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 240
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Introduces a practical approach to parenting that explains how to overcome the stresses and anxieties of parenting by learning how to relate to children in a calm, cool, and connected way.

ScreamFree Marriage

Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer
Author: Hal Runkel,Jenny Runkel
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 076793279X
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 288
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Through the best-selling ScreamFree Parenting, Hal Runkel showed thousands of parents how keeping their cool can revolutionize their family life. In his groundbreaking new book, ScreamFree Marriage, Runkel now shows couples how learning to stay calm, in the face of common marital conflicts, is the key to creating and enjoying a deep, lifelong connection. Every committed couple strives to hold on to the marriage they envisioned back when they first said "I do"--before the end of the honeymoon phase, before kids, mortgages, health crises, and all life's inescapable issues. But the truth is this: conflict is unavoidable--it's impossible for two people to see every single thing, face every issue, and experience every situation in exactly the same way. What results are couples "screaming" at each other--sometimes literally yelling out loud, sometimes shutting themselves down and shutting their partners out, and sometimes avoiding the issue altogether--none of which leads to the passionate, intimate connection we all crave. In ScreamFree Marriage, Hal introduces some radical new concepts about marriage, teaching couples how to embrace this inevitable conflict as a profound vehicle for strengthening a marriage. Rather than just a source of pain and disagreement, these "Fires of Commitment," as Hal describes them, can actually be the exact experience needed to grow couples into new levels of maturity and intimacy. By simply learning the ScreamFree formula of Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer, you too can cross through these fires and end up with a closer and more passionate marriage than ever before. Using accessible anecdotes and the disarming humor that readers have come to love, Runkel disproves prevailing marital wisdom, puts couples on a path to "intimate independence" and reveals a whole new, fresh approach to marriage.

Screamfree Parenting

Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
Author: Hal Edward Runkel
Publisher: ScreamFree Living
ISBN: 0975998110
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 227
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Turns out, that's exactly what they need.

Choose Your Own Adulthood

A Small Book about the Small Choices that Make the Biggest Difference
Author: Hal Runkel
Publisher: Greenleaf Book Group
ISBN: 1626343845
Category: Self-Help
Page: 160
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Congratulations, reader! You've successfully navigated through the trials of childhood and adolescence. Now, as you voyage through high school to college and beyond, you're set to begin your next big adventure: adulthood. A few big decisions await you, from majors and minors to jobs and careers (and maybe even marriage!). However, in between the big ones, you'll make a million other smaller, subtler choices that will underpin everything from your friendships to your bank account. These are the daily choices that will truly define you . . . so how will you choose? Choose Your Own Adulthood helps you approach these choices from a more thoughtful, curious, and ultimately self-aware perspective. You'll learn why responding is so much better than reacting, how loyalty is really overrated, which risks are worth taking and which are best avoided, and so much more. Exciting things await you on your journey toward adulthood: which path you take is for you to decide. Choose wisely!

The Self-Centered Marriage

The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your "We" by Reclaiming Your "I"
Author: Hal Edward Runkel,Jenny Runkel
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0307953602
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 304
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In the best-selling ScreamFree Parenting, Hal Runkel showed thousands of parents how focusing on themselves, in order to keep their cool, can revolutionize their family life. In his groundbreaking new book, The Self-Centered Marriage, Runkel now shows couples how learning to focus on themselves, in order to stay calm in the face of common marital conflicts, is the key to creating a deep, lifelong connection. Every committed couple strives to hold on to the marriage they envisioned back when they first said "I do"--before kids, mortgages, and all of life's inescapable issues seemed to get in the way. But the truth is this: conflict about these issues is unavoidable. What typically results are two spouses feeling forced to compromise themselves in order to just get along and keep it together. Eventually couples start "screaming" at each other--sometimes literally yelling out loud, sometimes shutting themselves down and shutting their partners out. In The Self-Centered Marriage, therapist and bestselling author Hal Runkel introduces some radical new concepts about marriage, teaching couples how to embrace their separate selves as a profound vehicle for strengthening a marriage. Every great marriage is a self-centered marriage because it's a bond between two whole, centered people. Calmly focusing on your own behavior, choices, and moods—which you can control—rather than your spouse’s—which you cannot—is the first step toward creating the relationship you really crave. Using accessible anecdotes and disarming humor, Runkel disproves prevailing marital wisdom and reveals a revolutionary path for spouses to be fully themselves, and fully married, at the same time.

Parenting Without Power Struggles

Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm and Collected
Author: Susan Stiffelman
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1849839204
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 320
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Every parent knows the unrelenting fervour of a four-year-old's tantrum, an eight-year-old's insistence on talking back, or a moody pre-teen's newfound hobby of brooding in anger. And every parent has asked the simple question: how can I avoid meltdowns and create more peace at home? While most parenting strategies are designed to coerce your kids to change, Parenting Without Power Struggles does something innovative, and focuses on where parents actually have real control: within themselves. When parents learn to keep their cool and parent from a strong and durable connection, they become able to help their children navigate the challenging moments of growing up. Family therapist Susan Stiffelman has shown thousands of parents how to be the confident 'captain of the ship' in their children's lives. Based on her successful practice and packed with real-life stories, Susan shares proven strategies and clear insights to motivate kids to cooperate and connect, making Parenting Without PowerStruggles an extraordinary guidebook for transforming your day-to-day parenting life.

The 28 Day Tame Your Temper Parenting Challenge


Author: Jackie Hall
Publisher: N.A
ISBN: 9780987543301
Category: Anger
Page: 130
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Based on the premise that it takes 21 days to break a habit and an extra seven days to reinforce the new habit (to tame your temper), this book will progressively teach you to understand the thinking behind your anger and frustrations, and you will learn how to adopt a different mindset when approaching the challenges of being a parent.

Negotiation Generation

Take Back Your Parental Authority, Without Punishment
Author: Lynne Reeves Griffin
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9780425217016
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 260
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A behavior management expert shares her sensible but radical approach to parenting that emphasizes a proactive system designed to help parents reclaim their authority, establish boundaries, and eliminate such negotiation tactics as rewards and punishments in order to teach children what is and is not acceptable behavior. Original. 20,000 first printing.

Love and Anger

The Parental Dilemma
Author: Nancy Samalin,Catherine Whitney
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101173920
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 256
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Winner of Child Magazine's Best Parenting Boo of 1991. "An honest look at how children can drive the most loving parent to periodic madness, along with practical suggestions for how to cope."—Adele Faber.

Loving Your Child Is Not Enough

Positive Discipline That Works
Author: Nancy Samalin,Martha Moraghan Jablow
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101495553
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 272
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In this now-classic, straightforward approach to childraising, Nancy Samalin shows parents how to set clear, concise guidelines to ensure positive and constructive discipline. Based on her extensive work with parents and children, she offers the most recent and invaluable advice on: Avoiding daily battles Using alternatives to punishment Dealing with anger Learning to let go Diminishing sibling rivalries and much, much more. Filled with practical solutions to everyday problems and thoughtful, useful information on opening up communication between the generations, Loving Your Child Is Not Enough will help parents to truly enjoy their child's growing years. Nancy Samalin is a contributing editor to Parents magazine with a regular column on discipline. Available on audiocassette from Penguin HighBridge Audio

Positive Discipline Parenting Tools

The 49 Most Effective Methods to Stop Power Struggles, Build Communication, and Raise Empowered, Capable Kids
Author: Jane Nelsen,Mary Nelson Tamborski,Brad Ainge
Publisher: N.A
ISBN: 1101905344
Category: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
Page: 384
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"Jane Nelsen, author of the successful Positive Discipline series, has now compiled a toolkit for parents to teach their children creative cooperation and self-discipline, with success stories from parents worldwide"--

Just Tell Me What to Say

Simple Scripts for Perplexed Parents
Author: Betsy Brown Braun
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0061746088
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 256
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Parents are often perplexed by their children's typical behaviors and inevitable questions. This down-to-earth guide provides "Tips and Scripts" for handling everything from sibling rivalry and the food wars to questions about death, divorce, sex, and "whyyyy?" Betsy Brown Braun blends humor with her expertise as a child development specialist, popular parent educator, and mother of triplets. Whatever your dilemma or child's question—from "How did the baby get in your tummy?" to "What does 'dead' mean?" to "It's not fair!"—Betsy offers the tools and confidence you need to explain the world to your growing child.

Playful Parenting

An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence
Author: Lawrence J. Cohen
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780307489609
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 320
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Parents have heard that play is a child's work—but play is not for kids only. As psychologist Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., demonstrates in this delightful new book, play can be the basis for an innovative and rewarding approach to parenting. From eliciting a giggle during baby's first game of peek-a-boo to cracking jokes with a teenager while hanging out at the mall, Playful Parenting is a complete guide to using play to raise strong, confident children. Have you ever stepped back to watch what really goes on when your children play? As Dr. Cohen points out, play is children's complex and fluid way of exploring the world, communicating hard-to-express feelings, getting close to those they care about, working through stressful situations, and simply blowing off steam. That's why "playful parenting" is so important and so successful in building strong, close bonds between parents and children. Through play we join our kids in their world. We help them express and understand deep emotions, foster connection, aid the process of emotional healing--and have a great time ourselves while we're at it. Anyone can be a playful parent--all it takes is a sense of adventure and a willingness to let down your guard and try something new. After identifying why it can be hard for adults to play, Dr. Cohen discusses how to get down on the floor and join children on their own terms. He covers games, activities, and playful interactions that parents can enjoy with children of all ages, whether it's gazing deep into a baby's eyes, playing chase with a toddler, fantasy play with a grade schooler, or reducing a totally cool teenager to helpless laughter. Playful Parenting also includes illuminating chapters on how to use play to build a child's confidence and self-esteem, how to play through sibling rivalry, and how play can become a part of loving discipline. Written with love and humor, brimming with good advice and revealing anecdotes, and grounded in the latest research, Playful Parenting will make you laugh even as it makes you wise in the ways of being a happy, effective, enthusiastic parent.

Parenting with Love and Logic

Teaching Children Responsibility
Author: Foster Cline,Jim Fay
Publisher: Tyndale House
ISBN: 1612912540
Category: Religion
Page: 272
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This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character. Establish healthy control through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles. Indexed for easy reference.

Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes... in You and Your Kids


Author: Scott Turansky,Joanne Miller
Publisher: Shaw Books
ISBN: 0307568970
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 240
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Adding honor as a factor in raising kids …and parent-child relationships. Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller offer a thorough program for establishing honor as a basis of family life — not just children honoring parents, but parents respecting children and children honoring each other. Even if honor seems a long way off in your household, you will find practical suggestions here to bring that goal a little closer — suggestions for kids of all ages. Honor is the biblical value that will bring about good behavior. It’s more than just changing what kids do; it’s changing the deeper issues of the heart that triggered the behavior. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Bright Minds, Poor Grades

Understanding and Movtivating your Underachieving Child
Author: Michael D. Whitley
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9781101119303
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 320
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For any parent who has ever been told, "your child isn't performing up to his or her potential," this book has the answer. Renowned clinical psychologist Michael Whitley, Ph.D. offers a proven ten-step program to motivate underachieving children. This easy-to follow book identifies the six types of underachievers from the procrastinator to the hidden perfectionist to the con artist, and it presents the ten steps to help children succeed in school-and ultimately, in life.

The Entitlement Trap

How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Owne rship
Author: Richard Eyre,Linda Eyre
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101544201
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 256
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Dump the allowance-and use a new "Family Economy" to raise responsible children in an age of instant gratification. Number-one New York Times bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre, have spent the last twenty-five years helping parents nurture strong, healthy families. Now they've synthesized their vast experience in an essential blueprint to instilling children with a sense of ownership, responsibility, and self-sufficiency. At the heart of their plan is the "Family Economy" complete with a family bank, checkbooks for kids, and a system of initiative-building responsibilities that teaches kids to earn money for the things they want. The motivation carries over to ownership of their own decisions, values, and goals. Anecdotal, time-tested, and gently humorous, The Entitlement Trap challenges some of the sacred cows of parenting and replaces them with values that will save kids (and their parents) from a lifetime of dependence and disabling debt.

Positive Discipline for Preschoolers

For Their Early Years--Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful
Author: Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.,Cheryl Erwin,Roslyn Ann Duffy
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9780307383143
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 368
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Completely updated to report the latest research in child development and learning, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will teach you how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love your child, there will be moments filled with frustration, anger, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my four-year-old deliberately lie to me? Why won’t my three-year-old listen to me? Should I ever spank my preschooler when she is disobedient? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series and its commonsense approach to child-rearing. This revised and updated third edition includes information from the latest research on neurobiology, diet and exercise, gender differences and behavior, the importance of early relationships and parenting, and new approaches to parenting in the age of mass media. In addition, this book offers new information on reducing anxiety and helping children feel safe in troubled times. You’ll also find practical solutions for how to: - Avoid the power struggles that often come with mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training - See misbehavior as an opportunity to teach nonpunitive discipline—not punishment - Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home by using methods that teach important life skills - Employ family and class meetings to tackle behavorial challenges - And much, much more! From the Trade Paperback edition.